Even if you get along with your ex and both care about your child`s well-being, it`s still important that you submit your custody to court instead of just making an oral agreement. Here at Apple Payne Law, we`re happy to talk to you about the most appropriate option for your family or discuss other options if you don`t reach an agreement on child custody and/or support in North Carolina. Feel free to contact us to arrange a consultation, or you can even agree on your own online advice so we can discuss your options and make sure YOU AND your children can get the best possible results during these stressful life changes. In order to avoid conflicts over an agreement, you may have already or almost agreed to go to a mediator/lawyer and help them prepare a written parenting plan and custody agreement to submit to the court. In the absence of written evidence of the oral agreement, the only way to change the childcare plan with respect to the oral agreement is to apply for an amendment to the parental leave and demonstrate that the oral agreement is in the best interests of the child. If you have an oral agreement, your educational obligations may not be fully considered. For example, you may choose to take your child to a doctor, but your ex may decide to take him to another doctor. It is not beneficial for your child. My ex-wife and I have made a 50-50 oral custody agreement since our divorce a few years ago. Since I started practicing law, the only advice I have given more than anyone else has been to “get it in writing.” This is the best method, whether you`re dealing with a lease (yes, people do have oral rental agreements, but it`s a completely separate topic), splitting up your property, or opting for a visit plan for your kids. Without written agreement, whether in the form of a “contract” or a consent settlement, it can be very difficult to enforce the schedule you have set in the event of a problem. If things go wrong, you can only try to impose an oral agreement by conducting a dispute – a tedious and expensive process.
So I will continue to repeat my mantra for everyone reading this article – get it in writing! One of the biggest ways for verbal chords to bite you on the line is during the interview process. While a decision can be made on the basis of income, standard of living, state laws, etc., you can try to make an informal agreement with your future ex-spouse. One of the best-known cases involved former U.S. House of Representatives member Joe Walsh. According to him, he did not pay family allowances from March 2008 to December 2010 because he and his former wife Laura Walsh had understood orally that they were going to distribute the expenses of the children. . . .